Vanessa Van Edwards

The #5 Biggest Dating Red Flags

Vanessa Van Edwards

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Are you navigating the complex terrain of dating and relationships? Look no further! Renowned expert Blaine Anderson is here to share invaluable insights that will empower you to make informed decisions in the dating world.Blaine uncovers the critical warning signs to watch out for and provides essential tips for a safer and smarter approach to relationships. Whether you're a seasoned dater or just dipping your toes into the dating pool, this is a must-watch.Read more: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/red-flags-men/Work with Blaine: https://www.datingbyblaine.com/coachingDatingByBlaine Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingbyblaine/In this video: 0:12 - Overview of Red Flags1:42 - Hot and Cold Behavior2:27 - Sexual Focus and Objectification2:43 - Pulling Back in the Relationship3:14 - Attachment Style Compatibility3:41 - Being Critical of Friends and Family4:22 - Excessive Mention of Past Relationships4:53 - Lack of Contribution in the Relationship5:21 - Conversational Hogging5:51 - Conversational Drought5:56 - Unwillingness to Meet in Person6:26 - How to Handle Red Flags******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. My name is Vanessa Van Edwards, and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/), Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/), and creator of People School(https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-school/).My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted, or forgotten again.Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/be-the-most-likable-person-in-the-room/******PS - Join the conversation on social!☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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