Show Notes
If you’ve been doing the work: ✅Regulating your nervous system, ✅Responding to symptoms with safety ✅Practicing self-compassion …but you’re still not feeling better yet, this episode is for you. Because one of the hardest parts of the healing journey isn’t learning what to do.It’s continuing to do it when it feels like nothing is changing. In this episode, we’re talking about lagging results — the experience of doing the work without yet seeing symptomatic change. And more importantly… how to stay in the process without spiraling, doubting yourself, or giving up.
Inside this episode, we cover: What “lagging results” actually are (and why they’re normal) Why constantly checking your symptoms can keep you stuck How urgency and outcome-dependence signal danger to your nervous system The real mechanism behind neuroplastic healing (what’s happening beneath the surface) Why healing often feels like “nothing is working” right before things start to shift The difference between inputs vs outcomes (and where to focus your energy) How to stay in the work, even when your brain is telling you it’s not working
The core message: You are not doing it wrong. The work is working. The results are just lagging.
A reframe to take with you: Healing is not like flipping a switch. It’s more like planting a seed. For a while… nothing looks different. But underneath the surface, everything is changing.
Reflection questions to support you: Where am I measuring success only by symptoms right now? What inputs am I consistently providing, even if I can’t feel the results yet? What would change if I trusted that my nervous system is rewiring beneath the surface? What would it look like to stay in process without needing proof right now?
Want guidance and support? If this episode resonates and you want guidance and support learning how to consistently ground back into what’s actually in your control, so your energy is moving in the direction of healing, Rachel would love to support you inside her coaching program, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain. Inside the program, you’ll get a self-paced curriculum grounded in modern pain neuroscience and specifically tailored for healing chronic pelvic pain, along with weekly live group coaching calls where you can ask questions, get clarity, and receive support applying this work to your real symptoms and your real life. You don’t have to do this alone anymore.You deserve to live a life beyond chronic pelvic pain. 👉 Learn more about the program here Rooting for you, always 💜 Rachel
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
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