493: Who Am I Now? Dr. Karen Kramer on Outgrowing Who You Were, Limiting Beliefs, and the Courage to Not Know What's Next Video
From Betrayal To BreakthroughShow Notes
In this episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Dr. Karen Kramer, executive coach, hypnotherapist, and intuitive strategist with nearly 35 years in leadership development, for a conversation about what happens when something we've built, a relationship, a career, a version of ourselves, simply stops fitting. Dr. Karen introduces the idea that growth often arrives as a quiet mismatch long before it arrives as a crisis, and that the real question underneath the discomfort is always the same: who am I now that this has changed?
Together, Dr. Debi and Dr. Karen explore why we numb instead of facing that question, the limiting beliefs we absorb before the age of seven that quietly run the show for decades, and Dr. Karen's own path from 35 years of traditional coaching into hypnotherapy and Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique after trying, and failing, to coach herself through her own divorce.
This conversation goes deep into curiosity versus judgment, why nearly every limiting belief traces back to some version of 'I'm not enough,' and what it actually looks like to release what no longer serves, not by forcing change, but by becoming aware of what's been quietly steering you the whole time.
In This Episode:
The central question underneath every outgrown relationship, career, or identity: who am I now that this has changed?
Why growth can feel like a drastic overnight shift or a slow, subtle one, and why both are completely normal
The red shirt metaphor: why outgrowing something doesn't mean it was ever bad
Why so many of us numb with food, work, TV, or alcohol rather than face the discomfort of change
The idea of willingness, checking your own willingness to be uncomfortable, and why you can't steer a car that isn't in motion
How limiting beliefs form before age seven, largely from overhearing things uncritically, and why almost every one traces back to some version of 'I'm not enough'
The two questions Dr. Karen uses to uncover a hidden limiting belief: what would I have to believe about myself for this reaction to make sense, and is this reaction out of the norm for me
The difference between curiosity, 'for what purpose am I reacting this way?', and judgment, 'why am I like this?'
What actually happens in hypnotherapy, the 'filing cabinet' model of the subconscious mind, and why the entire process is built around safety
Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT), Dolores Cannon's work, and the client whose ovarian cyst had fully healed a month after releasing years of repressed guilt
Resources Mentioned:
DrKarenKramer.com (book a free 20 minute call)
The work of Dolores Cannon and Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT)
The Five Stages of Betrayal Recovery, ThePBTInstitute.com
Connect with Dr. Karen Kramer:
Website: DrKarenKramer.com
Connect with Dr. Debi
The PBT Institute: https://ThePBTInstitute.com
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