Show Notes
Welcome to series 9 of the Teenage Kicks podcast, and a brand new set of brave conversations with people who had something difficult to go through in their teenage years.
This episode features Jon Wilson Cooper, who - through his career choice as a counsellor - has explored his own relationship with his mental health at length, including how he feels about having grown up with a sibling with disabilities.
We discuss everything from the embarrassment of being seen in public with his deaf brother, who had behavioural difficulties and a severe learning disability, the jealousy of the attention given to his brother, and the shame of feeling this way.
Jon says there's a difference between shame and guilt, and the challenge for our teenagers - and for us as their parents - is to reject the shame (which is paralysing) whilst managing the guilt effectively.
Who is Jon Wilson Cooper?
Jon is a qualified psychotherapist, trainer, and organisational consultant with over 38 years' experience of helping people with their mental health. He is the Founder and Director of The Albany Centre [https://thealbanycentre.com/] for personal and professional development, which is a counselling training institute and therapy. He also runs Mosaic Counselling Services CIC [https://mosaiccounselling.co.uk/] (a low-cost counselling service) in St Albans, Hertfordshire. He has worked in the UK, America, and India in a variety of settings with a wide range of clients, including those with addiction issues, mental health problems and histories of personal trauma. Jon has a special interest in helping individuals raise awareness of their blocks to emotional well-being and making positive life choices.
Jon is also a TEDx speaker whose talk on why people hate was chosen as one of the top TEDx talks of 2024. Watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=su-0oL1QdHM
Jon welcomes connection - you can find him here:
* Connect on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonwilsoncooper/] * The Albany Centre [https://www.linkedin.com/company/tha-albany-centre/] * Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jon.cooper.925/] * Follow the Albany Centre on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/TheAlbanyCentre.StAlbans/]
More teenage parenting from Helen Wills:
Helen wills is a counsellor, a parent coach, and a teen mental health podcaster and blogger at Actually Mummy [https://www.actuallymummy.co.uk/], a resource for midlife parents of teens.
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Episode produced by Michael J Cunningham [https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-j-cunningham-245586266/].
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