Caller: "How Do I Stop Self Sabotage From Controlling My Life" w Hayden Brown And Greg Burgoyne

How much of your life is being shaped by fear… without you even realising it?

Nicki asks: “How do I stop fear of abandonment from controlling my life?”

After years of trauma, loss, and emotional pain, Nicki feels disconnected from herself, stuck in unhealthy patterns of self-sabotage, and unsure how to move forward.

She shares how a painful affair, ongoing health struggles, and a long-standing fear of abandonment have left her feeling trapped in cycles of emotional eating, overthinking, and self-doubt.

In this episode of BREAKTHROUGH, we explore the correlation between past trauma, self-sabotage, and identity.

We unpack why so many of the behaviours we judge in ourselves are often unconscious coping strategies designed to protect us from pain, and how unresolved emotional wounds can shape our relationships, health, and decision-making for years.

We also explore why fear of abandonment often has less to do with losing a valued relationship and more to do with the meaning we attach to it.

👉 If you’ve ever found yourself: • repeating self-sabotaging behaviours you can't seem to break • struggling with emotional eating, overthinking, or avoidance • losing your sense of self after trauma, or a painful relationship

👉 This episode will help you: • understand the connection between past trauma and your self-sabotage • identify how fear of abandonment may be influencing your relationship • begin rebuilding a stronger sense of self based on your values instead of fears

The goal of BREAKTHROUGH is to help you uncover the "why" behind your challenges and gain clarity on your next best steps to break the pattern.

This episode explores how self-sabotage is rarely the real problem… but often a protective response to pain that no longer serves the life you're trying to create.

Watch episode one here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jWkmcZHaOI8&list=PLha8g7XKIK0Oyr7c2eazfNdhwScUDDJdk

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. The content shared on this show is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological, or mental health advice. We do not diagnose or treat disease or provide medical care. Case studies and stories are shared to help illustrate concepts and create insight. Names and identifying details are regularly changed to protect confidentiality.