Show Notes
It’s that time of year again, reviewing your goals. And for many riders, this process doesn’t bring clarity or motivation… It brings disappointment, self-judgment, and the feeling of “I didn’t do enough.”
In this episode, we unpack how to review your goals in a way that actually builds confidence instead of breaking it, especially if you’re the kind of rider who sets big, ambitious goals and pushes yourself hard. Because here’s the truth: Most people don’t achieve their stretch goals. And that doesn’t mean they didn’t grow.
This conversation dives into the difference between results and progress, why outcome goals can be motivating and dangerous, and how to reflect on your season without falling into the “I failed” spiral.
Inside this episode, we explore:
Why most riders don’t achieve their goals, and why that’s not a problem
The danger of measuring your worth purely by results
How stretch goals are meant to drive growth, not self-criticism
Why progress often isn’t visible on a results sheet
The difference between outcome goals, performance goals, and process goals
How to review what was actually within your control
Why flexibility is a strength, not a setback
How stepping back can be the fastest way forward
The role ego plays in goal-setting and decision-making
Why kindness, patience, and trust are essential parts of progress
You’ll also hear real, honest examples of:
• Letting go of outcome goals mid-season
• Choosing long-term development over short-term validation
• Staying resilient when things feel like they’re falling apart
• Learning to measure success from the inside out
This episode is for you if:
You feel disappointed when reviewing your season
You struggle to separate progress from results
You’re afraid to set goals again after missing them
You want to grow without burning yourself out
You’re ready to build confidence that isn’t dependent on scores or placings
Progress doesn’t always look impressive on paper, but it’s always happening if you’re willing to look for it.
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