You Are Not Crazy

What Coercive Control Does to Your Time

You Are Not Crazy

Show Notes

There is a particular kind of loss that doesn't get talked about enough when you leave a coercive relationship, and it isn't the loss of the person. On some level, that was survival. The loss I am talking about is quieter and stranger than that. It's the loss of your own mind, entire summers, thousands of small moments that were technically yours but that you never actually lived. In this episode, I talk about what it looks like when coercive control colonizes your nervous system so completel...

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