You Are Not Crazy

The Holidays, the Cycle of Abuse, and the Moment You Finally See It

You Are Not Crazy

Show Notes

The holiday season has a way of revealing what we’ve been trying to ignore. When the pressure to perform, host, or appear “happy” collides with the chaos of an emotionally abusive relationship, everything that’s been buried rises to the surface. In this episode, I unpack why abuse patterns intensify around the holidays — and how to recognize the moment you finally see the cycle for what it is. I also share ways to start naming the truth, release self-blame, and reclaim your nervous system — e...

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