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110. Sober Dating: "He Said He Doesn't Really Drink" Part 1

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Show Notes

In this episode, Kat and Ewa are back with another sober dating conversation, and this time we’re talking about the classic line: “I don’t really drink.” You know, until you actually start dating him and realize his definition of “not really drinking” is very different from yours.

We’re getting into the little lies and half-truths people tell about their drinking early on, from “I only drink socially” to “I’m basically sober” to ordering water on the first date just to seem more compatible with you. We talk about why some men feel the need to downplay their drinking when dating a sober woman, what happens when the image they created starts to fall apart, and why the dishonesty can become a bigger issue than the drinking itself.

We also talk about the difference between someone who genuinely respects your sobriety and someone who is simply saying what they think you want to hear. Because we’re not asking every person we date to be sober. We’re asking them to be honest about who they are from the beginning.

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