Deep Dive: When One Family Member's Moods Are Running the House
What Fresh Hell: Parenting, Relationships, and Making Life Better, with Two Funny MomsShow Notes
This Deep Dive series is all about reducing the friction between ourselves and our kids when trying to communicate with them, whether it's yelling less, finding real reasons for constant defiance, or picking our battles.
What do we do when one of our kid's moods is affecting everyone else in the house? Whether it's anxiety, frustration, rigidity, or plain old temper tantrums, understanding where it's coming from is the first step. But even when we don't allow emotions to be an excuse poor behavior, that misbehavior can happen anyhow—and walking on eggshells is no way to teach the dysregulated person better emotional skills.
In this episode, we discuss:
the sometimes hidden needs of the other kids in the house
why "fair" is not the same thing as "equal"
the single most important factor for positive family well-being
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Our episode "When One of Our Kids Is Taking All Our Bandwidth"
Nicole Schwarz for imperfectfamilies.com: When The Siblings of a Difficult Child Feel Ignored
Leigh Anderson for Lifehacker: What to Do If Your Child's Behavior Is Ruining Your Relationship With Your Partner
Pamela Li for Parenting for Bain: Emotional Regulation in Children | A Complete Guide
Jane Indergaard for ADHD Newsstand: It's Never About Me: The Hidden Needs of Siblings
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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