Show Notes
In this powerful and deeply personal episode of The Autism Dad Podcast, I open up about one of the darkest moments of my life—a time when the weight of burnout, single parenting, and undiagnosed ADHD nearly pushed me past the brink. But more importantly, I talk about the moment I chose five more minutes—and how that choice changed everything.
Joining me is Dr. Kristen Guillory, a leading voice in men’s mental health and founder of Candid Conversations for Men. Together, we break down what often goes unspoken, especially for dads raising neurodivergent kids. This isn’t just a conversation—it’s a lifeline. If you're a dad feeling like you're carrying the weight of the world or a parent trying to support your partner, this episode is for you.
What We Talk About:
- Why men’s mental health is still a taboo topic—and how we can change that - What it’s really like to parent autistic children as a solo dad - The emotional toll of trying to be “strong” all the time - How societal expectations silence men’s pain - The moment I considered giving up—and what pulled me back - How to break the silence and ask for help without shame - The importance of presence over perfection in fatherhood - The five-minute rule that can help you survive even the hardest days
This Week’s Sponsors:
NeuroProtek®Developed by a Yale-trained neuroinflammation expert, NeuroProtek is a brain-supporting flavonoid supplement designed to help with neurological inflammation often seen in autism. Save 5% with code ROB5 at https://algonot.com
MightierMightier helps kids with autism and ADHD learn emotional regulation through biofeedback and fun video games. It's a tool I used personally with my own kids, and it made a huge difference. Learn more at https://mightier.com use the code "theautismdad22" and save 10%.
If this episode resonates with you, please consider subscribing and sharing it with someone who needs to hear it. Visit listen.theautismdad.com for all episodes and guest info. You’re not alone—there’s always someone listening.
Guest Bio:
Dr. Kristen Guillory is a former professor of counseling and social work, a speaker, coach, and founder of KSGL Enterprises. She leads “Candid Conversations for Men”—a national initiative providing spaces where men are seen, heard, affirmed, and celebrated. With over 25 events hosted nationwide, Dr. Guillory is changing how we approach men’s mental health. Website: https://kristenguillory.com Instagram: @drkristenguillory
Host Bio:
Rob Gorski is the founder of The Autism Dad platform and host of The Autism Dad Podcast. A single father to three autistic children, Rob turned his personal journey into a lifeline for other families. He’s been featured by CNN, ABC News, BBC, and more, and his award-winning blog and podcast reach hundreds of thousands of parents seeking hope and support. Website: https://theautismdad.com Instagram: @theautismdad
More from The Autism Dad
This episode is presented by Mightier.
Stephanie Kerns was a teacher before she was an autism mom, and the only autism she had seen up close was in boys. So when her daughter started putting sponges in her mouth and echoing every question back in the exact tone it was asked, the first read was a speech delay.
This episode is presented by Mightier.
This episode is sponsored by PESI. Nicole Carbone's son Luca is almost four, nonspeaking, and diagnosed with Level 2 autism. When he can't tell her what he needs, he bangs his head on whatever is closest. His pain tolerance is high enough that the thing strangers always say, that he'll stop before he really hurts himself, is just not true. In this Seen and Heard conversation, Nicole talks about the communication barrier underneath the self injury, the AAC device she hopes will ease it, and what it was like to separate her twins into different preschools so Luca could get what he needed. She also talks about the best 40 seconds of her life so far, the day he looked right at her and said "hi mommy" for the first time, and she got it on video. Then there's the part aimed at the rest of us. A stranger at the park watched Luca hum and asked her if he ever shuts that motor off. And inside the autism community, Nicole says the hardest thing about a Level 2 diagnosis is not the diagnosis. It's the comparing. Her advice is blunt and it applies to every level: don't compare your kid to any other kid. Nicole is the founder and president of The NEST Project, a nonprofit serving families in Pennsylvania and Ohio that buys what insurance won't cover for kids with special needs. Find them at nestcares.org. SPONSORThis episode is sponsored by PESI. Their 2026 Kids and Teens Autism Symposium runs November 18 and 19, online, and it is neuro-affirming the whole way through. There is a full session on demand avoidance, for every kid who got called defiant when it was really their nervous system, and another on kids who mask so well they get treated for anxiety instead of what is actually going on. Two hundred dollars for both days, up to 18 CE hours, and a 30 day replay if you cannot be there live. Built for clinicians, and parents can register too. pesi.com/theautismdad Rob's book, So Your Child Was Just Diagnosed with Autism, comes out December 29, 2026. Preorder at theautismdad.com/book.
Melvin Lopez is autistic. So is his five year old son, Mateo. And the first thing Melvin does in this conversation is take apart the assumption that those two facts give them something in common.