Show Notes
There's a moment right before you explode or shut down where your nervous system decides the conversation isn't safe. Most men never see that moment, only what comes after it.
In this episode, we'll cover:
What's actually happening in your body in the fifteen seconds before you react
Why explosion and shutdown are the same pattern wearing different clothes
How childhood experiences can wire conflict to fear of abandonment, and why that's true for almost every man
Why the origin of this pattern stops being an excuse once you're in midlife
How your dysregulation affects her body, not just the conversation
What actually interrupts the pattern in the moment
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