Show Notes
This is part 2 of my interview with Todd Kashdan, Ph.D.
Key Takeaways
How to persuade others skillfully How intolerance and speed of uncertainty feed into rigid thinking The connection between persuasion skills and acceptance and commitment skills The difference between task-oriented problem solving and relationship problems What is cognitive diversity and how it plays in our group interactions How to use cognitive defusion when dealing with interpersonal difficulties Why viewpoint diversity is good How to spark curiosity, not fear How to build stronger alliances during conflict
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