Show Notes
Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you.
Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby.
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Chapters:
00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time
03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is
06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern
09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships
13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story
18:00 Why You Keep Going Back
21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works
25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment
28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant
31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate
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