Show Notes
"Accommodating these children is like giving them a lifeline, and these children are worthy of it."
Christine Bauereis didn't find out she was autistic and ADHD until her 30s. The clarity came the way it does for so many parents, after her own kids were diagnosed. She looked at her son's reports, then at her own childhood, and the whole picture finally made sense.
Christine is a mom of three in central Massachusetts, part of a blended family. Her 14-year-old, her 10-year-old son Archer, who has ADHD, and her youngest, River, who is six and autistic. River is level two, verbal with moderate support needs, and as she puts it, just wonderful.
In this Seen and Heard episode, Christine gives Rob an honest look at what their days hold. The mornings that used to be a battle, before a new psychiatrist, an ADHD diagnosis, and medication that she calls life-changing turned school refusal into a kid who pops up asking if he has school today. The afternoons that get hard, because River masks all day and lets it all out when he's finally home and safe. And a win that will stay with you, a three-hour food drive she and River did together for families in Worcester, the first full day they ever got through without a single meltdown.
But the heart of this one is Christine's voice as an advocate. When her district's entire SEPAC resigned because the district wouldn't collaborate, she didn't go quiet. She stood up at a town meeting and said the thing every parent in that room needed to hear. Special education isn't a choice. It is a right.
What you'll hear:
Finding out she's autistic and ADHD in her 30s, after her kids
How ADHD medication turned school refusal into excitement
Why masking all day leads to afternoon meltdowns at home
The Worcester food drive that became their first meltdown-free day
When the whole SEPAC resigned, and what she did next
Why she begs parents to listen to autistic adults
"No matter what level it is, it's still hard. Everyone's hard is hard." Christine Bauereis
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About Rob:
Rob Gorski is the founder of The Autism Dad, a blog and podcast dedicated to supporting parents raising kids on the autism spectrum. As a dad of three autistic sons with over 25 years of experience, Rob brings lived experience, honesty, and heart to every conversation.
My NEW book, So Your Child Was Just Diagnosed with Autism, lands December 29, 2026 from Fair Winds Press. Updates and preorder: theautismdad.com/book
Where to find Rob:
You can find me at theautismdad.com, on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok at The Autism Dad, and on YouTube at The Autism Dad. New episodes drop every week at listen.theautismdad.com.
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