Show Notes
SUMMARY - When you have a child who often behaves in ways that are not good, right, or appropriate, you want to address the problematic behavior as their parent. This can be challenging to do with a child who lives with a neurobehavioral difference and must be approached in a way that has their brain in mind. In this episode, Eileen talks about why this process can be more challenging for kids with neurobehavioral differences, and how parents can take a different approach to address problematic behaviors.
TAKEAWAYS:
It is within the role and responsibility of a parent to address problematic behavior with their child, even when these behaviors are symptoms of a brain-based difference. How addressing problematic behaviors looks different when your child or teen has a neurobehavioral difference. Traditional parenting lens approach to addressing challenging behaviors vs a Brain First approach How to address problematic behaviors from a Brain First lens What cognitive skills are involved in having a conversation about a specific event or situation that included the problematic behavior What it looks like to shift the focus from punishments to building lagging skills and why this is a better use of your energy
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