Feminine as F*ck

485: Is Personal Development Making You More of an A**hole?

Feminine as F*ck

Show Notes

Doing the work isn't the goal. Coming home to yourself is. ||

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Monica's been a leader in the trauma healing and feminine/masculine embodiment industry for 10 years now, and in that time, she’s watched so many people get stuck on the hamster wheel of personal development. In this episode, she calls out the harm caused by this need to always improve yourself, and describes what the actual end goal of “doing the work” is, because it’s not what you may think it is.

She also gets into:

✨ Why people who are “always doing the work” are the least at peace ✨ Why awareness does NOT equal healing ✨ Her signature H.E.R. Framework ✨ The difference between managing trauma vs. healing it ✨ Why true healing can’t be done in a low-cost, DIY course ✨ Nervous system capacity vs. regulation, and why you need both ✨ The stages of integration and embodiment, and why they’re just as important as healing ✨ The importance of self-acceptance along with self-improvement ✨ Why resilience, not perfection, is the whole point

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