Show Notes
Eva Oh welcomes Aranja—kink, power, and psychedelics coach, trauma therapist, and death doula—to #teakink for a deep dive into the intersections of kink, psychedelics, and death. They explore the role of a death doula, the unexpected parallels between kink and mortality, and how slowing down the dying process changes everything. Aranja shares insights on guiding clients through psychedelic experiences, the challenges of kink coaching, and the lack of resources around trauma in these spaces. Plus, a discussion on a potential kinky death retreat and Eva’s first encounter with a dead body.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:21) - Aranja, Kink, Power and Psychedelics Coach, Trauma Therapist and Death Doula (05:20) - Discovering the Role of the Death Doula (09:45) - Bringing All Aranja's Roles Together? (11:05) - Can You Combine Kink and Psychedelics? (13:35) - The Similarities Between Kink and Death, Humility and Letting Go (15:45) - The Berlin Death Festival and the Cultural Practices of Death (18:45) - Slow Down the Death Process (21:50) - Eva's First Experience with a Dead Body (24:45) - A Kinky Death Retreat? (26:20) - What is Psychedelics Coaching? (28:30) - The Dangers and Expectations of Psychedelic Clients (32:50) - The Concerns of Kink Coaching Clients (39:30) - Kink, Trauma and Structuring Engagement as a Coach or Dominatrix (45:02) - The Lack of Resources Around Kink and Trauma (46:40) - How Kink is a Container for Sidelined Emotions and Experiences (51:30) - What Aranja Studied to Bring Together These Roles (53:00) - Aranja's Plâns and Eva's Sacrificial Session
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