Show Notes
In this honest and powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, I and Lorna dive deep into something so many riders experience… but rarely talk openly about: 👉 anger, frustration, and the self-judgment that follows.
This episode was inspired by a listener question about losing patience with her horse after a difficult moment crossing a bridge, and the emotional spiral that followed afterward.
Together, we unpack:
Why anger often has nothing to do with the obstacle itself
The hidden emotions underneath frustration in riding
Why riders take their horse’s behaviour personally
How powerlessness and fear can trigger emotional reactions
The connection between perfectionism, self-worth, and riding struggles
How to stop spiraling into guilt and shame after difficult moments
Why your horse isn’t “doing it to you”
How to approach emotional triggers with more awareness and compassion
This episode is an important reminder that emotional reactions don’t make you a bad rider, they make you human.
Resources Mentioned:
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