Show Notes
In this episode, I and Lorna tackle a struggle that every ambitious rider knows too well - trying too hard.
We pour our hearts, time, and energy into riding, believing that working harder must lead to better results. But what happens when pushing more, training more, and wanting it more actually holds you back?
Together, we explore why over-effort often blocks progress, both for you and your horse; and how to find the balance between determination and trust.
This conversation is an honest, relatable deep dive into the mental side of “more isn’t always better.”
Key Takeaways:
Trying harder isn’t always trying smarter. Sometimes the best way forward is to pause, reflect, and reset.
Effort has a limit. Beyond a certain point, extra pressure creates tension, not progress.
Trust the process. Growth doesn’t follow a straight line, your timing and your horse’s timing matter.
Rest is part of performance. Breaks allow both your mind and your horse’s body to absorb learning.
Your mindset determines your muscle memory. Give your subconscious time to do its job.
Memorable Quotes:
“When you want something so badly, you start to overconsume your own progress.” - Lorna
“It’s not about doing more, it’s about doing deeper.” - Jocelin
“Rest. Don’t quit.” - Lorna
“We’ll get there, on our own timeline.” - Jocelin
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