EP 174: Grief Is a Verb: Seven Principles I'm Living After Losing Amada
The Biology of Trauma® With Dr. AimieShow Notes
Grieving without getting stuck is possible. But most people don't know what that actually looks like from the inside. In this personal episode, Dr. Aimie shares seven principles she is living right now — attachment grief, heart shock, body holding, and toxic positivity. Not the theory of grief. The actual practice from inside it.
If you have ever wondered how to grieve without shutting down — or why grief and the nervous system are inseparable — this episode is the most personal answer Dr. Aimie has given.
➡️ Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-174-7-principles-for-feeling-grief-in-your-body-after-loss
In This Episode You'll Learn:
04:45 — What is the difference between grief and heart shock?
07:40 — Principle 1: Why does your grieving style depend on your attachment style?
15:00 — Principle 2: What does it mean to let your body be held during grief?
21:50 — Principle 3: How do you anchor to life when the shock wears off?
27:36 — Principle 4: What is the difference between feeling grief and feeding grief?
36:00 — Principle 5: Why does choosing not to numb matter in grief?
39:40 — Principle 6: How do you move from your thoughts into your body during grief?
45:40 — Principle 7: Why does riding the biggest waves require the right person?
Resources/Guides:
Read The Biology of Trauma, Chapter 5: The Whole-Body Experience of Overwhelm. Goes deeper into the vagus nerve, diaphragm, breath, and gut shutdown referenced in this episode. This is the biology underneath every principle Dr. Aimie shares.
➡️ Full show notes with links and resources: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-174-7-principles-for-feeling-grief-in-your-body-after-loss
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