It's Not What You Think - Episode 5, Living by Values That Were Never Yours
It’s Not What You Think with Julie CochraneShow Notes
In this episode of It’s Not What You Think, Julie explores how easily we can build our lives around values, expectations and definitions of success that we never consciously chose.
She looks at how messages from family, culture and early experiences can shape what we believe we should want and how qualities such as achievement, independence or helpfulness can sometimes be both genuine values and strategies we learned along the way.
The episode invites you to become curious about your own “shoulds,” where they came from and whether they still reflect what matters to you now. Because living by your own values doesn’t necessarily mean changing your life. It begins with recognizing what is genuinely yours and giving yourself permission to choose again.
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