It's Not What You Think - Episode 4, The Loneliness That Doesn't Look Like Lonliness
It’s Not What You Think with Julie CochraneShow Notes
In this episode of It’s Not What You Think, Julie explores a form of loneliness that can exist even when we’re surrounded by people: the loneliness of not feeling truly known.
She looks at how we can learn to show the parts of ourselves that feel safest while keeping our needs, uncertainty and more vulnerable parts out of our relationships. The episode explores the difference between being needed and being known, why genuine connection requires both vulnerability and discernment and how our earlier experiences can make letting others in feel risky.
Julie offers a simple place to begin: noticing where you feel most like yourself and experimenting with telling the truth just a little more. Because deeper connection may not require more people. Sometimes it begins by allowing the right person to know more of you.
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