Show Notes
Eva Oh and Vex of Four Chambers dive into a conversation about the sometimes messy and always fascinating intersections of sex, art, and identity. From how performance challenges embodiment in sexuality, to how burnout hits when your work revolves around desire. We journey through Vex's cyber goth era and chatroom nostalgia to inducing lactation for a porn series, as she opens up about her values, and the shifts shaping porn today.
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HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:00:23) - Meet Vex of Four Chambers and a Thought on Hawking Porn vs Fashion (00:01:40) - The Point of Four Chambers and Hotness? (00:03:40) - Order, Mess and Truth in Sex and Our Work (00:06:30) - What Vex is Hiding, Sexual Performance vs Embodiment (00:10:20) - Who Are We Really? How Vex is Using Weed in Self-Discovery (00:13:20) - Our Relationship to Surrender and Burnout (00:16:00) - Vex's Craving for the Physical (00:18:00) - Eva's Burnout Strategies and Meditation (00:20:45) - Vex at 12 in Habbo Hotel Chatrooms, the Internet as a Portal and Weirdness (00:26:20) - Vex's Draw to Cyber Goth Culture and Darkness (00:29:00) - Boredom and Craving Storytelling (00:30:50) - The Void, Cuckolding and Leaning into Despair (00:37:10) - How Making Porn Has Changed Vex's Life and Values (00:39:30) - The Disappearance of Pornography? (00:41:30) - Chatrooms to Camming to Tumblr Porn to Four Chambers (00:45:05) - What Sex Work Taught Us About (Lack of) Freedom, Society and Meta (00:51:40) - Our Longing for Undocumented Experiences (00:55:00) - The Substance, Doppelgänger by Naomi Klein and Being 'Palatable' as Women (00:57:24) - Managing Mobile Phone Usage and Dating Younger (01:01:00) - Exploring Archetypes and Fucking with Mommy Issues (01:06:00) - Inducing Lactation for the Porn Series 'Maman' (01:12:30) - Popular Porn Categories (01:15:00) - Eva's MILF and Digital Detox Plans
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