ADHD Chatter

After 5,000 ADHD Assessments, I Noticed This Scary Pattern...

ADHD Chatter

Show Notes

This episode has been paid for by Focused. It contains an advert for their ADHD assessments.

Almost one year on, Danielle Mulligan, Focused Clinical Lead and ADHD Nurse Practitioner, returns to the podcast to discuss how assessment and support for ADHD is changing.

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Chapters:

00:00 The Heartbreaking Reality of ADHD

02:33 Why ADHD Makes You Feel Broken

06:47 The Scary Pattern After 1,000s of ADHD Assessments

10:35 Why Being Misunderstood Turns Into Shame

12:48 Why an ADHD Diagnosis Can Make Things Feel Worse

15:18 The #1 Thing ADHD People Blame Themselves For

17:03 The Hidden Grief After an ADHD Diagnosis

19:31 How ADHD People Learn to Hide It

22:50 Why So Many ADHD Adults Were Missed for Decades

24:57 The Pattern Before an ADHD Breaking Point

25:57 Why Focused Was Created

26:57 What Actually Happens During an ADHD Assessment

28:45 What an ADHD Assessor Is Really Looking For

29:47 How to Make ADHD Assessments Feel Safe

31:06 The Growing NHS vs Private ADHD Assessment Gap

33:30 The Biggest Misconception About ADHD

34:56 A Heartbreaking Letter to My Younger Self

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