Show Notes
In today’s episode, I and Lorna take a deep dive into one of the most emotionally charged struggles riders face: caring too much about what other people, especially trainers, think.
A listener asks how to move on from a negative trainer experience in the past that still affects her riding years later. And that’s where this episode gets powerful.
I and Lorna unpack:
Why your mind holds onto old memories
How past criticism can shape your confidence today
And most importantly, how to change the emotional impact of those memories so they stop controlling you
You’ll learn the exact process Lorna uses with clients to release old judgments, shift the “submodalities” of a memory, and take back control of how you feel.
This episode isn’t just helpful, it’s transformational. If old comments, past trainers, or past mistakes still hold space in your mind… this one is for you.
Tools & Techniques You’ll Learn:
How to alter visual “sub-modalities” (size, color, distance, speed)
How to reduce the emotional charge of a memory
Auditory techniques to silence or soften a trainer’s voice
Kinesthetic tools to remove unwanted tension from the body
The simple but powerful act of disassociating to reduce overwhelm
Anchoring a new emotional state to replace the old one
(And yes, I literally walk through an example with my own memory; you’ll learn a lot just listening to the process.)
Quotes Worth Remembering:
“You created the memory, that means you can also change it.”
“You’re not changing the past. You’re changing the emotional meaning of it.”
“Disassociate, change the picture, remove the feeling, and suddenly the memory loses its power.”
“The moment you shift the sub-modalities, the memory cannot stay the same.”
Resources Mentioned:
🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
🧠 Apply for coaching/discovery call: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching
Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/
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