Show Notes
Your boss doesn't quite make eye contact in a meeting. You text someone and they don't get back to you. And it sticks. The whole rest of the day, some part of you can't put it down.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz walks through the wheel of life. A metaphor he uses with clients to show why your nervous system is still looking up to people the way you did at five years old, even when you're forty. Even when those people are old. Even when they're not actually that powerful anymore. Even when, sometimes, you don't even like them.
This episode covers:
Why telling yourself to just be more confident never quite works
The wheel of life metaphor: how the developmental wiring that was appropriate at five gets stuck running at thirty-five
The equation underneath all of it (approval equals self-worth) and why it has to be broken
Two pathways for reclaiming the authority you've been giving away
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