Show Notes
This might be our most hilarious episode yet.
In this episode of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes set out to talk about erotic activities, erotic energy, and how to bring more play, anticipation and aliveness into your sex life… and somewhere along the way, things descend into absolute chaos. There are tears. There is wheezing. There is a completely unhinged detour into animal play that nearly takes both hosts out.
But underneath the laughter, there’s actually a really juicy conversation here. Mel explains that the erotic isn’t just about sex toys, lingerie, or trying to become some mysterious version of yourself. It’s about vitality, curiosity, self-expression, play, and creating moments that feel alive, exciting and connected. Together, JJ and Mel unpack how to break out of routine, why anticipation matters so much, and how to start exploring erotic activities in ways that feel fun rather than intimidating. This episode is full of ideas you can actually try, whether you’re a total beginner or ready to step a little further outside the box.
In this episode: what the erotic actually means why routine can flatten desire how to bring more play and curiosity into your sex life beginner-friendly erotic activities more adventurous ideas for couples who want to mix things up why sex does not have to be perfect or serious to be hot and why laughing together might be one of the sexiest things of all
You’ll hear ideas like: showering together with low lights pleasure mapping each other’s bodies sensory play with touch, temperature and massage oil reading erotica to each other feeding each other slowly and teasingly erotic massage undressing each other with intention and yes… the now-infamous animal play conversation that sends everyone off the rails.
Pleasure Practice: choose an inside-the-box or outside-the-box erotic activity and give it a go.
Next episode: How to Have Earth-Shattering Orgasms.
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HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney
Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes
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