Show Notes
There's a window, ten to twenty seconds, where your body decides what happens next in an argument, before you're even aware you're reacting. This week we'll cover what's actually happening in that window, why explosion and shutdown are the only two exits most men were ever taught, and what specifically hijacks that window before you get a real choice.
Why the 15 seconds before you explode or shut down are physical, not just emotional
Why white-knuckling your reaction isn't the same as regulating it
Why you might feel compelled to correct her version of events, and what's underneath that
What actually interrupts the pattern toward explosion, and toward shutdown
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