When Your Marriage Is About You (More Than You Realize) | Ep 34
Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for MenShow Notes
You might believe you’re doing your part in your marriage, showing up, trying, putting in effort. And yet, intimacy still feels strained or distant.
In this episode, I talk about a subtle dynamic many men don’t realize is shaping their relationship, when your marriage becomes the place you try to feel okay.
You’ll hear:
Why effort and good intentions don’t always create intimacy
How attention, control, or generosity can become ways to self-soothe
Why sex often becomes the only language of connection men know
What begins to change when you stop asking your relationship to regulate you
This episode is about awareness, not blame, and what shifts when a man starts leading himself emotionally.
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