ADHD Chatter

The Lonely Side Of AuDHD Nobody Talks About

ADHD Chatter

Show Notes

Dr. Samantha Hiew is an ADHD and Autism expert with a PhD in Medical Sciences and lived experience of being AuDHD.

In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of masking Autism, the identity crisis that can follow a late diagnosis, why making friends can feel so difficult, and how to find your true self after years of pretending to be someone you're not.

If you've ever felt different, misunderstood, or like you don't know who you really are, this conversation is for you.

Chapters:

00:00 Trailer

01:28 Why Autism Often Goes Unnoticed


03:22 My Emotional Reaction To An Autism Diagnosis


04:59 The Identity Crisis Nobody Talks About


07:18 Processing A Late Autism Diagnosis


11:39 Why Traits Can Feel Stronger After Diagnosis


12:59 The Hidden Cost Of Masking AuDHD


16:40 How To Find Yourself Again


20:32 Tiimo Advert


23:12 Why Making Friends Is So Difficult


25:39 Finding Love As An AuDHDer


30:57 The Stages Of AuDHD Acceptance

35:50 Audience questions

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Producer: Timon Woodward

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

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