Show Notes
If I could offer you one tool that took my PDA, autistic son's aggressive behaviors from 5 hours of daily meltdowns and destruction, to less than 30 minutes a few times a week — would you want it?
If the talking is the part you cannot stop, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast It's four letters. W.A.I.T. — Why Am I Talking. In this episode, I'm walking you through the single most powerful strategy we ever used to help my son regulate — and it wasn't a script, a technique, or the right words. It was learning to stop talking altogether. I share the real story of what this looked like in our house during my son's burnout, the two kinds of talking I used to reach for that both backfired every time, what I came to understand about why verbal processing is so hard for kids like ours in an activated state, and exactly how to practice WAIT yourself — including what to do with your own fight-or-flight energy instead of directing it at your child. This one is close to my heart, and it's the answer I give every time a professional or doctor asks what helped my son the most.🎧 Prefer to read? Catch the full blog version here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/the-1-regulation-tool-that-cut-my-autistic-pda-child-s-meltdowns-by-95-2.📘 Want a place to start today? Grab my free guide, The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child's Meltdowns (So You Can Stay Calm Instead of React) — how to see your trigger loop, interrupt it, and respond, instead of holding it in or exploding. A nervous system guide for parents of highly reactive kids (ADHD, PDA, Autism, OCD, ODD) to regulate their own nervous systems first. Download it free here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast.
Free guide — The 7 Truths, why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcast Free guide — Meaning, for the grief nobody names and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcast
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