Show Notes
What is a trauma bond, and why is it so hard to leave an unhealthy relationship even when you know you deserve better? In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down what trauma bonds actually are, why intermittent reinforcement and the "hope trap" keep us stuck, and how to finally break free.
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Trauma Bonds
02:39 Shared Trauma vs. Trauma Bonds
08:22 Why You Can Miss Someone Who Treated You Terribly
12:51 Intermittent Reinforcement and the "Casino" Effect
22:10 Can You Genuinely Love Someone Who Hurts You?
26:42 Trauma Bond vs. Anxious Attachment vs. Codependency
32:55 Why Do We Keep Going Back?
39:59 Why Leaving Feels Worse at First (Cognitive Dissonance)
46:36 Childhood Trauma and Vulnerability
49:08 Grief, the Death of the Dream, and Practical Autonomy
53:03 Is "No Contact" Always Necessary? (Safety First)
56:30 How to Actually Break a Trauma Bond
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