Show Notes
Does your therapist actually care about you, or are they just good at their job? Licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton answers 10 of your most vulnerable questions about the therapeutic relationship, including a few you might be too embarrassed to ask.
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We cover why therapy feels so one-sided, whether your therapist thinks about you between sessions, what to do when you feel attached to your therapist (or think you love them), why lying to impress your therapist is worth bringing up, how ruptures and repair work, and why your therapist can’t become your friend after therapy ends. Kati also covers what it’s like to graduate from weekly therapy, and how to ask your therapist the question that scares you most: “Do you care about me?”
If something in this episode feels familiar, bring it to your next session. In therapy, the uncomfortable stuff is often the most useful information you have.
TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Intro: is the therapeutic relationship real? 00:51 Q1: Is my therapist’s care real if I’m paying her? 05:39 Q2: Why does she know everything about me when I know nothing about her? 11:35 Why I say “patient” 13:19 Q3: Does my therapist think about me between sessions? 17:45 Q4: Why am I so attached to my therapist? (transference explained) 25:07 Q5: I lied to my therapist to impress her 29:36 Q6: My therapist said something that made me angry (ruptures and repair) 36:29 Q7: I think I love my therapist 42:18 Q8: Why can’t we be friends after therapy ends? 46:04 Q9: I’m finishing therapy, so why am I devastated? 50:40 Q10: Can I ask my therapist if they care about me? 53:10 Final thoughts
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Erotic transference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuF9IHzVets Ending therapy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NxMtG4Jp98
Kati Morton is a licensed marriage and family therapist. This video is for educational purposes and does not replace individual therapy or medical care. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 in the US, or contact your local emergency services.
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