Show Notes
Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup.
This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as a path for personal growth, and highlight both the strengths and limitations within your relationships.
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The Untethered Soul Michael A Singer
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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319
No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh https://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/
Loving What Is By Byron Katie https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/
More Than Two: https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706
The Ethical Slut: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664
Nonviolent Communication: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/
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