Show Notes
Kayla and Carl, a married couple with young kids, share how non monogamy helped them move out of a decline in sexual connection and communication. While Carl was initially not interested in exploring outside the relationship himself, his support of Kayla’s exploration became a major turning point. Kayla, who is seven years older and had often felt more in charge in the relationship, began to see Carl differently: more confident, grounded, and secure. That shift had a powerful impact on their intimacy. This episode explores how non monogamy can introduce new sexual energy into a relationship and help long-term couples who feel stagnant find their way out of a rut.
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