“An Apology Is Due” - Leaders, We Need to Do Better | The Shepherd’s Bench Ep. 014
The Shepherd's BenchShow Notes
“We may not know exactly what the issue was. But I think an apology is due.”
The season finale. Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei sit with the hardest subject they’ve touched: the state of the church, the scandals, and the unhealed leaders behind them. It didn’t go where they expected. It ends with an apology.In this episode: Kofi before Christ: the DJ, the radio show, the party promotion Why this isn’t a sermon, it’s a bench conversation When someone can tell you things, people’s perspective of them becomes flawed Elijah calls down fire in one chapter and wants to die in the next “We love being seen as less human than we actually are” “You’re too simple”, when humility confuses the congregation The locked car: waiting until everyone’s seated before you walk in Gifted, saved people with an unrenewed mind The king and the linguist: African tradition imported into the pulpit The enemy doesn’t fight you, he gives you an opportunity “By the time you recognise it, what you loved has killed you” Accountability before authority, and after it An apology to the flock Heal so you don’t bleed
Until we as leaders heal, we won’t be able to lead effectively, or for very long. That’s the season. Thank you for sitting on the bench with us. ____________________ The Shepherd's Bench is hosted by Kofi Dartey & Randolph Adjei and brought to you by KAC Studios. Subscribe for new episodes. Season 2 will be available soon. Follow us on Instagram & TikTok: @shepherdsbench
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