"What Looked Like a Compliment Was Actually Wounding Me" ft. Prophet Sharlette Reid | SBP EP.013
The Shepherd's BenchShow Notes
"I didn't realise that what seemed like a compliment was actually wounding me."
For the first time on The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei are joined by a guest: Prophet Sharlette Reid. What follows is one of the most honest conversations we've had, about what it costs to be a woman carrying a prophetic calling, where women go when there's nobody to disciple them, and the words spoken over her that she mistook for affirmation.
In this episode: A father who raised his daughter and his sons the same "It was only when I came into church that I found the gap" Why so many women condense themselves to the spaces already available The same names, the same voices: why conferences recycle The commission requires multiplying, not one name, one personality, one calling Why male-on-male discipleship happens naturally, and what that leaves women with The proximity problem: "I can't speak to him too long, it looks like more than it is" More women in church than men. So where are the women leaders? It has to transcend an event, building systems, not moments "You need someone who can love you for who you are, not what you do" A prayer for the woman who thought she had to change to be loved
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