Show Notes
At six years old, Kofi Dartey joined the counselling queue at his father's church. Five people ahead of him. Little suit, little tie, shiny shoes. When he finally got in, his dad asked what he was doing there. He said: this is the only place I can see you. In Episode 9 of The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi and Randolph Adjei talk about the part of leadership nobody puts on the flyer, the humanity underneath the calling.
In this episode: Are leaders born or made? "Even a leader who is born must be raised" What leaders actually lose: it's easy to crucify sin, harder to crucify your freedom The preacher's collar is a cuff, the bondservant's life isn't his own Pastors' kids: when your dad is everybody's dad The queue story, and the question it left in his father "There were days we ate from the food bank", what people don't see behind the result Entitlement, access, and the pastor who's expected to answer at any hour Man of God: you are human, endowed with godly content Where control and spiritual manipulation really come from: unaddressed insecurity Don't be so spiritual you're no earthly good Jesus took care of his family before the cross The three cardinal rules: you are human, you will always be human, remember you're human ____________________ The Shepherd's Bench is hosted by Kofi Dartey & Randolph Adjei and brought to you by KAC Studios. Subscribe for new episodes every 2 weeks. Follow us on Instagram & TikTok: @shepherdsbench
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