Show Notes
You knew exactly what you wanted to say. Then something softer came out instead. It happens at work, with your partner, with your parents. Every time, you walk away wondering why you keep doing this.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz walks through what's actually happening in that gap between what you meant to say and what came out. He shares a real client case where the version of his client sitting in the office and the version of him in the meeting were two completely different people. The gap between those two voices is the entire teaching.
This episode covers:
Why telling yourself to stop being a people-pleaser never quite works
The specific pattern running below your conscious mind when you soften, hedge, or hold back
The three costs you're probably not adding up, including one showing up in your body
What actually changes the pattern, and what doesn't
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