How Should We Support Our Kids' Passions?
What Fresh Hell: Parenting, Relationships, and Making Life Better, with Two Funny MomsShow Notes
What are the best ways for us to support our kids' interests? Should we help them become the best gymnasts and singers they can be, as soon as they show glimmers of true interest? Or are they better off exploring many interests, without all of that added pressure?
From travel sports to elite ballet training and specialized extracurriculars, childhood activities feel increasingly professionalized, with a lot less room for beginners, dabblers, or kids who just want to have fun.
This week, we're wondering whether encouraging curiosity and exploration may be healthier than pushing early specialization.
We discuss:
The difference between supporting a child's interests and managing their career
Why exploration—not specialization—is often the key to discovering lifelong passions
How parents can praise effort and enjoyment instead of performance
Why your child's purpose may be much bigger than any single job or talent
How to encourage resilience when interests change or dreams evolve
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Lindsay Karp for Business Insider: My parents told me to have a career that could support me. I'm telling my kids to follow their passions.
Daniel B. Peters for HuffPost: Are We Missing the Mark If We Support Our Children's Passions?
Lisa Heffernan for the NYT: Our Push for ‘Passion,’ and Why It Harms Kids
Susan Newman for Psychology Today: How to Support and Nurture Your Child's Passions
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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