Show Notes
We all want to know: Does this nervous system work actually help my child regulate? The truth is — yes, it does. Your nervous system is your child’s safest roadmap to their own. But it only works when your calm is real — not performed.
If that’s your day, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast In this episode, Afshan Tafler shares personal stories and neuroscience-based insight to explain how your regulation influences your child’s, why “pretend calm” backfires, and what true, embodied safety looks like for both of you.
You can also read the blog version here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/does-regulating-your-own-nervous-system-really-help-your-child
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