Show Notes
You can explain your work to a friend over dinner. In front of your boss, the same words fall apart. Most people call this social anxiety, or I just lack confidence in those situations. It isn't either of those things.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz unpacks what's actually firing when you freeze around certain people. The cyberball research from UCLA. The reason your wiring treats social rejection like physical pain. And the strange phenomenon where you need approval from people you don't even like.
This episode covers:
The brain mechanism that makes disapproval feel dangerous
Why your social anxiety fires unevenly: grounded with one group, paralyzed with another
The distinction between disapproval being uncomfortable and disapproval being dangerous
Why standard confidence advice doesn't move the needle
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