How To Have Sex

How To Feel Sexy Again After Heartbreak

How To Have Sex

Show Notes

How to Feel Sexy Again After Heartbreak 💔

They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. But is that actually good advice? Or are you just making a bad situation a whole lot messier? This week on How to Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes are getting personal about heartbreak, breakups and finding your confidence again.

Mel reveals two VERY different ways she coped with heartbreak. One involved sober dancing in Bali and reconnecting with herself. The other? Let's just say there was a lot more partying involved!

Meanwhile, Jay-Jay admits one breakup took her TWO YEARS to get over. And apparently, teenage Jay-Jay spent her evenings crying to Milli Vanilli. Tragic on several levels.

We're asking all the important questions. Is breakup sex ever a good idea? Should you get a revenge body? Why do we torture ourselves checking our ex's Instagram? And how do you feel attractive again when someone has made you feel completely unwanted?

There's plenty of laughter, some surprisingly emotional confessions and genuinely helpful advice on healing after a relationship ends, rebuilding self-esteem and rediscovering intimacy. Because getting your heart broken doesn't mean your sexy days are over.

How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.

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How to Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland - https://www.podlab.co.nz

HOSTS: Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney

Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach www.melissavranjes.com Instagram: @melissavranjes

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