Show Notes
Catherine and Brian went on Feeld looking for a threesome but things took a turn when Catherine fell for a woman who’s also married with a daughter. Now the two couples (and their kids) have formed a loving polycule built on honesty and care.
In today’s episode, we talk about how Brian stays sensually connected to the dynamic by being submissive, even though he’s not sexually involved with Catherine’s girlfriend. We get into how they’ve navigated Catherine having threesomes with her girlfriend and her girlfriend’s husband. We also explore the importance of staying open to evolving dynamics, and why asking thoughtful questions can go further than quick reassurance when your partner is struggling in non-monogamy.
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Bonus content: Accepting myself as a submissive man with Brian: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-ep-60-as-154020880?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link
Bonus content: Raising a child in a polycule:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/133008939/
Ep.46 More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (book)
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