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Why Your Eating Disorder Craves Validation (Is it "Attention Seeking"?)

Ask Kati Anything

Show Notes

In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton dives deep into the complex psychology of eating disorders, the lasting "blueprint" of childhood trauma, and why certain coping mechanisms feel impossible to give up. We explore the often-misunderstood need for validation in recovery, the erratic behavior of some therapists, and why mental health struggles can feel like an addictive cycle. Whether you are navigating your own healing journey or trying to understand a loved one, this episode offers professional insight into breaking cycles of shame and finding a path toward a healthier sense of self.

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Timestamps

00:00:50 – Kati discusses whether "attention-seeking" in eating disorders is actually a cry for unmet emotional needs from childhood.

00:07:02 q1 – An exploration of why childhood sexual abuse deeply impacts one's psychological foundation and sense of safety.

00:15:54 q2 – Kati explains the addictive nature of self-harm and how to discuss the fear of stopping with a therapist.

00:22:45 q3 – Insight into why a therapist might show inconsistent personalities and how to handle unprofessional boundaries.

00:31:16 q4 – Advice for a student in India facing academic pressure and unsafe living conditions while dependent on family.

00:34:53 q5 – A look at "behavioral activation" and what to do when standard depression treatments and medications haven't worked.

00:39:09 q6 – How OCD can "rob" you of your interests by demanding a level of control that makes joy impossible.

00:44:40 q7 – Why it is common to feel terrified of fully committing to recovery after years of struggling with anorexia.

00:49:09 q8 – A professional breakdown of how therapists ethically intervene when a patient self-harms or dissociates during a session.

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The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.

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