Show Notes
In this deeply honest episode of Ask Kati Anything, guest Jared Craft shares valuable insights into overcoming his ego, financial fears, and the lifelong work of surrendering control. Jared opens up about his journey through addiction and recovery - He details how growing up closeted in a conservative town fostered a deep-seated need for external validation and people-pleasing. He discusses his corporate career at Google and YouTube and the subsequent struggles with exercise addiction and substance abuse, which ultimately led to a dramatic family intervention. This is essential listening for anyone seeking to understand the true gift of recovery and how to finally let go of control for personal and professional growth.
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00:00 - Introduction: Jared Craft
01:42 - Living for external validation in his 20s
02:20 - Growing up closeted in a conservative Minnesota town
03:36 - The early desire for external success and people-pleasing
04:44 - The unexpected process of coming out
07:06 - Moving to LA and the start of deeper addiction struggles
10:29 - The Lance Bass photos
11:09 - The conversation with his sister and parents about his sexuality
18:37 - The Intervention that forced him into his first rehab stint at 24
20:09 - The misconception about what recovery was
23:40 - Sobriety, relapse, and the key difference the second time around
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26:46 - What is an Inventory? (Self-check for resentment, fear, and harm)
29:29 - The deep-rooted fear of financial trauma and scarcity
32:39 - The Set Aside Prayer for walking into conflict or anxiety
33:58 - Getting over prejudices about the word 'God' and finding a Higher Power
40:32 - The 'Whack-a-Mole' nature of control and addiction
41:49 - Advice for someone who is Day One Sober
42:53 - The Gifts of Recovery
44:48 - How fear of losing clients resulted in poor boundaries
48:03 - Intimate relationships as the current area for growth
51:37 - Jared's next steps: Overcoming the fear of change
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