Parenting Through Separation - Kids Need Dads | BDC Podcast E15 with Allan Harvey
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🤝 Join the Better Dads Club Community If you're enjoying the podcast and would like to stay connected, join the Better Dads Club community. Sign up to our newsletter to receive new podcast episodes, upcoming events, workshops, and coaching programmes designed to help you become the best dad you can be. 👉 www.betterdadsclub.co.nz Episode Overview Separation is one of the hardest experiences a father can face, but it doesn't have to mean losing your relationship with your children.
In this episode, Tom sits down with Allan Harvey from Kids Need Dads, a New Zealand parenting support charity that has spent more than 30 years helping separated parents navigate mediation, co-parenting and the Family Court system. Allan has personally supported hundreds of fathers through separation and shares practical, compassionate advice for staying focused on what matters most: your children.
Tom and Allan discuss common misconceptions about fathers' roles after separation, how mediation works, ways to rebuild trust, and why community is one of the greatest resources a dad can have. In this episode Allan's own separation journey and how it led him to Kids Need Dads Why the Family Court system can be so challenging for families What Kids Need Dads does and how it supports separated parents Mediation vs Family Court: understanding your options Common mistakes separated dads make (and how to avoid them) Building trust with your co-parent over time The importance of community and finding support from other dads What the Care of Children Act actually says about fathers Practical advice for dads wanting more time with their children Parenting from a distance and maintaining strong relationships Why showing up consistently matters more than being perfect Learn more about the PelvicPro Core Trainer Want to build a stronger core, improve your confidence, protect your spine, and keep up with your kids? Find out more here: https://betterdadsclub.co.nz/products/coretrainer
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