Ask Kati Anything

Why You Can’t Stop Betraying Yourself (How to Finally Trust Your Gut)

Ask Kati Anything

Show Notes

Whether you are dealing with childhood trauma and shame, navigating the grief of life transitions after graduation, or learning to trust your instincts after years of self-betrayal, this episode provides practical therapeutic insights for your healing journey. Join us as we explore how to set healthy boundaries, overcome loneliness, and stop the cycle of self-abandonment to build a more authentic relationship with yourself. Kati also discusses the heavy burden of caregiver burnout, the physiological necessity of sleep for mental health, and how to support those struggling with suicidal ideation. In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton answers listener questions and takes a deep dive into the true meaning of forgiveness and how it serves as a tool for personal liberation rather than condoning hurtful behavior.

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Timestamps

00:57 - Q1: How can I forgive people who have hurt me deeply?

04:47 - Q2: How do we keep going when we’re exhausted (Caregiver burnout & sleep)?

10:04 - Q3: Suicide prevention: How to help and what society can do.

13:22 - Q4: How to open up about trauma without feeling shame.

17:34 - Q5: Dealing with regret and unemployment after quitting a job.

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22:30 - Q6: How to trust yourself and manage triggers.

24:06 - Q6 (Continued): Setting boundaries vs. overreacting.

31:12 - Q7: Moving on and finding routine after graduating high school.

43:06 - Q8: How to trust yourself again after years of self-betrayal.

54:07 - Q9: Navigating loneliness and outgrowing old friendships.

Ask Kati Anything ep. 296 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT

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