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The "Anxious-Avoidant" Therapy Trap: Why You’re Scared to Rely on Your Therapist

Ask Kati Anything

Show Notes

In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed therapist Kati Morton, LMFT, dives into the complex intersection of social media and mental health. We explore how to protect yourself from "rage-bait" and identity-driven outrage while still using platforms productively. Kati also breaks down the vital differences between flashbacks and hallucinations, the ethics of acting out trauma in therapy, and how to navigate anxious-avoidant attachment dynamics with your own therapist. Plus, a deep dive into recovery tools and Kati’s personal strategy for overcoming a "funk" using a unique gratitude practice.

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Chapters:

00:00 Protecting Your Mental Health Online

01:30 How to Curate Your Feed & Avoid "Rage-Bait"

03:55 Awareness, Resilience, and Critical Thinking Skills

08:48 Identifying "Emotion Mind" vs. "Wise Mind"

10:33 Acting Out Trauma in Therapy: Safety & Perspective

14:40 Flashbacks vs. Hallucinations: What’s Actually Happening?

18:19 Can Trauma Cause Psychosis?

20:11 Spirituality vs. Religion in Healing

24:55 The Truth About Forgiveness & Resentment

30:19 Addressing Shame & Responsibility in Abuse

36:04 Navigating Anxious-Avoidant Attachment in Therapy

41:21 Meal Replacement Drinks in ED Recovery

44:13 Kati’s Personal Practice for Pulling Out of Depression

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